By Wendy Kaminer
"If a Nobel Prize have been provided for readability and sanity in a global long past mad, Wendy Kaminer will be on her technique to Stockholm." -- Newsday
Anyone who is ever questioned why conversing approximately dependancy has turn into so trendy, shuddered on listening to an "adult baby" evaluate his upbringing with the Holocaust, or felt that admitting one's powerlessness is a daunting prospect for a participatory democracy can be overjoyed by means of this bracingly outspoken and clever paintings of social criticism.
Whether she is infiltrating twelve-step conferences and codependency workshops or comparing the claims of authorities from Shirley MacLaine to M. Scott Peck, Wendy Kaminer deftly diagnoses a countrywide circulate (and multi-million-dollar undefined) with a powerful tendency towards authoritarianism, a cult of victimhood, and a foul streak of covert religiosity.
Controversial, unique, and brilliantly reasoned, i am Dysfunctional, you are Dysfunctional adjustments the best way we predict approximately self-help -- and is helping us to imagine for ourselves.
"Explores...the ominous impact of all this institutionalized whining on our tradition and politics...an incisive and provocative argument." -- Washington Post
"Extremely witty...Ms. Kaminer has a true reward for honing her anger to an epigrammatic edge....We could make reliable use of [her] skepticism."
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Reality itself is on our side in this struggle; Truth is our ally, and its Light empowers us to succeed, which means we can’t lose. For instance, in any moment that some fear appears in our mind, and we remember that what we’re seeing there is simply the dark spawn of negative imagination, then where is its power to push us around? That’s right: the light of our realization in the moment needed is the same as dismissing that fear. Here is one last encouraging, fear-busting fact and the bright action it helps to inspire.
Pay the price. And then hope to possess those powers we imagine come with the package we just bought: a lasting sense of security coupled with continual contentment. In other words, go out into the world and take from it what we need in order to feel fearless. But here’s the “catch”—and why no one wins peace of mind with what they find at the end of these rainbows. This kind of success, both in terms of what we hope to win as well as the “powers” it promises to grant us, is an illusion. Yes, we can come to own the object we desire—yes, we can win the position we see as being the path to “power”—but here’s why we can never hope to possess ourselves through these achievements alone: our newly won sense of strength and security—its fearlessness—is as fleeting as are those conditions we are now dependent upon in order to sustain our imagined sense of self!
Isn’t anger a kind of “demon”? Isn’t despair at being alone a gloomy specter? And what about that phantom fear of growing old? Instead of looking at these internal chain-rattling entities to see whether or not they really have any power to hurt us, we keep them out of sight. Like the children in the town of Turnaround, we walk the other way whenever we distract ourselves from some unwanted condition or blame some outside cause for the way we feel. All of this explains why the young boys in our story preferred to go the long way to school rather than challenge what they believed to be the perils of the haunted house.